This Too, Will Pass ~ FROM BLACK
TO WHITE
ALONG THE WAY, LIFE
often seems to grow heavier and harder than before
we set our feet upon it. But although this is so,
it is not the only thing we find; at the same time,
we grow correspondingly stronger, and able to carry
not only our own load, but to reach out and help others
carry theirs, who otherwise might be struggling and
staggering along.
Sometimes, too, we might think in despair:
"Why did I ever get into this? The Way is so
difficult and the Goal so far, and I feel too weak
to reach it." But there is no going back; there
is, moreover, no staying here, for the present is
transitory and cannot be clung to as a support. We
must go on, so take heart from all those who trod
the Path before us; they had their trials, too, just
as will all those who come after us.
We can take only one step at a time, and
the next step is always the most important—and
often the most difficult—of our life, because
it is the next step, and each succeeding step will
be 'the next step.' We must keep our sight fixed upon
it, and not strain our eyes gazing up at the mountain-top,
through the mists and clouds that enshroud it, wondering
what it is like up there. We shall get there in due
course if we pursue the Way, step by step. The desire
for quick results often blinds us to the results that
appear quite suddenly and quietly, and not infrequently;
we look for things, but do not see what is here.
Remember: All things change. Just around
the corner may be that element, that factor, that
will change, mysteriously, the whole picture; it need
not be something big, dramatic or stupendous, but
might be something seemingly trivial; it will make
all the difference, however, and you will wonder why
you had felt depressed before.
If we can open ourselves to the changes
of life instead of resisting them, our passage along
the ever-flowing river will not be so rough. We must
accept our vulnerability and stop pretending we are
supermen. As human-beings who are—let's face
it—not yet enlightened, we are subject to various
kinds of mental disorders; but this is not unusual—indeed,
it is to be expected. The Buddha said that all unenlightened
beings are crazy, in varying degrees—or words
to that effect. So we need not feel too bad about
it, as we are not alone in this. Neither must we remain
like this forever, as we can change, and must allow
ourselves the possibility to do so, and not be so
hard on ourselves. If we do not, then one day, perhaps,
unable to live with ourselves any longer, we might
throw ourselves beneath a train or take an overdose
of something or other.
If we become sad, we should recognize that
sadness has arisen because of certain causes, and,
having arisen, will also pass away, like everything
else. If we grasp at the sadness and become sad about
being sad, then we will be double-sad, and it will
go on and on like that. The same is true if we are
angry; we shouldn't be angry about being angry, but
should see it as it is, and let it go.
Something else we should not forget is to
stand back at times, and look at ourselves from a
distance, to see ourselves on the stage of Life. Oftentimes,
we take ourselves too seriously, and lose perspective.
While it is true that there is a lot of suffering
in the world, there are moments of happiness and comedy,
too; it is not a complete tragedy. The ability to
look on the bright side and laugh at ourselves at
times, is a priceless thing, and can sustain us through
all kinds of hardships.
Followers of the Way learn, during their
journey, to see the white in the black, where before,
all seemed black; when they become adept at this,
they may change black into white, and the rocks in
their path will no longer be seen as obstacles but
as stepping-stones. A different way of looking at
things can often change our understanding of them
considerably. Look at any object within reach of you
right now—a pen, for example: most of us see
a pen as merely an instrument to write with, but to
the man who conceived the idea of a pen, and who struggled,
by trial-and-error, and probably with much frustration,
to create it, it was much more than that; he knew
it from every possible angle, and knew it, no doubt,
with love, too. There is wonder all around us, at
every turn, and everything has its story. The problem
is, our eyes are old and tired and we do not see clearly.
We say: "My life is so ordinary and boring; nothing
interesting ever happens to me." This, of course,
is not true; life is never boring but always new and
different. If we were to examine ourselves, we would
probably find that we are 'disconnected' or out-of-tune
with Life; we would then be in a position to tune-in
again, and find ourselves once more as parts of Life,
instead of apart from it. |