Ripples Following Ripples ~ SHUTTLING
AROUND
DV
met me when I flew in at night, and soon had me at
his place. It was nice to be back there, in spite
of the heat and humidity, as he and his family were
as kind to me as always. I presented them with the
gifts I’d bought for them, including some thangkas,
which they had nicely framed. He took me to a dentist,
to have a broken tooth repaired; after that, he took
me to a physiotherapist about my shoulder, who reassured
me that there was nothing fractured. He suggested
some exercises for it, but for my part, it was a matter
of remembering to do them. I made several more visits
to him before I left for Adelaide.
I’d been corresponding with Georgina since the
previous year, and she’d invited me to spend
some time at their place in the hills, and so, this
is what I did, but she gave no indication as to how
long I would be welcome. She picked me up at the airport,
and took me home. Her husband, Rob, was cordial enough,
and I enjoyed staying there, going for walks in the
early morning.
With winter coming on, I began to gather wood from
the nearby forest for their open fire, and with the
help of their chain-saw (I’d never used one
before, so it was a novel experience), built up a
sizeable stack, enough to last them until the next
year. I also did whatever other jobs I could for them
around the place.
Whenever necessary, Georgina would drive me into town
for any talks I had to give. I also spent some days
in the Sri Lankan tem-ple, where the monk ~ Sumedha
~ really pressed me to stay; he was a gregarious person,
and easy to get on with, but didn’t like staying
on his own. For my part, I didn’t like having
to pretend so much; I mean, the devotees were very
nice and kind, but I didn’t enjoy being on a
pedestal. The room I was given was also the room where
Sumedha had his computer, on which he used to work
long into the night. Now, I like to sleep early, as
I get up be-tween 2 and 3 o’clock, so this wasn’t
a good arrangement.
My talks there went well, as did those I gave to several
Vietnam-ese groups. Sumedha and other people in the
temple requested me to stand-in for him when he went
back to Sri Lanka at the end of October for 3 months
or so; I asked them to allow me to defer my decision
about that until nearer the date.
Someone invited me to a display of relics at the big
new Chinese temple, and together with Sumedha, I went.
There was a Thai monk sitting before the altar, he
was the one who’d put on the show, and what
a freak-show it was; the beautiful glass stupas carried
labels proclaiming their contents to be 'Buddha’s
Relics (plasma), 'Buddha’s relics (blood)',
'Kwan Yin Bodhisattva’s Relics', 'The
Next Buddha’s Relics', and so many more.
People were milling around to gaze in awe on these
things, never questioning the preposterous claims.
The temple must have made quite a lot from hosting
this mockery, not to mention the monk. Such traveling-shows
are quite common now, and are really big business;
flourishing on ignorance and superstition.
I got a poster depicting these things, and later,
wrote to the monk at his email-address thereon, questioning
his claims. He replied, inviting me to visit him,
when he would explain everything to me. I wrote again,
revealing that I am a monk, and asking however would
he be able to explain blood-relics of the Buddha to
me, or relics of the Next Buddha? It is hard
enough to combat existing superstition without having
to deal with new forms of it, I said. He didn’t
reply a second time. (I even heard of a Vietnamese
monk in America returning from India with brain-relics
of the Buddha! And the person who told me this believed
it without question! How stupid people can be!)
Not heeding the signs at the time, I overstayed my
welcome at Georgina’s, and spent 2 months there
when it shouldn’t have been so long. Georgina
was undergoing marital problems. Thuy and her sons
came to my rescue, and sent me a ticket, so I flew
to Brisbane at the end of July, staying with them
at their café. Huy would marry at the end of
August and they wanted me to be there for that, and
to join them when they flew to Melbourne for another
ceremony with their family there. Meanwhile, Huy drove
me out to visit my mother several times; the first
time, she didn’t recognize me; the second time,
she did, and the third time, didn’t; she had
moments of lucidity, before slipping back into fuzziness;
such is the nature of that disease. We also stopped
to see Sheila and Frank, and I brought some of my
stuff back with me.
The weather was good during my stay, and I soon got
into a rou-tine with my morning-walks along the sea-front,
but in ordinary clothes, for practicality, and not
in my robes. There were many other people strolling
or striding out. Some greeted me with a “Good
morning” or “G’day” while
others ignored me. I grew used to seeing one man in
particular; he could be heard long before he hove
into view, greeting everyone with a loud and cheery
“Good morning! Have a great day!” so that
no-one could pretend they hadn’t heard and had
to reply.
Arrangements for talks were not well-made. I gave
two talks in a Sri Lankan temple, and they were about
the best.
Huy’s wedding went alright, although it was
very warm that day and the house of his wife’s
family ~ although large ~ was very crowded. I was
happy when it was over (years earlier, after at-tending
a wedding in Adelaide, I vowed it would be the last,
but I made an exception here). I joined the family
on a flight to Mel-bourne the day after, as most of
their relatives live there and a second ceremony was
held, which I attended, too; in my opinion, this one
went better than the first; for one thing, it was
much cooler. I stayed in their home until after the
ceremony, when I went to stay with Translator Tuan
again.
In Brisbane, I’d had a tooth extracted, but
in Melbourne I needed more treatment, and visited
Jamie, who filled 3 teeth for me; I was really fed-up
with my teeth!
The committee of the Sri Lankan temple in Adelaide
didn’t bother to respond to my several emails
informing them that I’d decided to accept their
invitation to stay there, so I changed my mind and
went to Sydney instead. They were very disappointed
about this, but these days, there is no excuse for
poor communication, and I’d emailed the monk
and two other people. I was quite relieved, as I didn’t
want to be in charge of the temple even temporarily,
and go along with all the rituals; people expect so
much from monks, and if you try to live up to their
expectations you become a puppet rather than a human
being with feet on the ground!
Arriving in Sydney, I stayed with a young couple I’d
met before, and gave a talk in the largest Vietnamese
temple there ~ Chua Phuoc Hue ~ the next day. There
was a large audience, and it went quite well, but
the translation wasn't the best. It was a pity they
didn't find someone more competent, as we have to
be very careful with translation, otherwise we might
convey the wrong meaning. The lady who did it had
translated for me many years before, and I recalled
I wasn't pleased with her translation at that time.
She reminded me that I'd told her in '87 that I wanted
a translator ~ someone who would give my ideas ~ not
an inter-preter ~ who would give her own ideas of
what I say. The two are quite different, and I often
have to deal with this.
Chua Phuoc Hue wished me to talk in their temple in
Melbourne ~ Chua Quang Minh ~ so although I’d
just come from there, back I went. The person who’d
arranged to pick me up and drive me to the airport,
however, not only came late, but was unfamiliar with
the way, and we spent so much time in finding it that
I missed my flight and had to buy another ticket!
My talk in Quang Minh over, I returned to Sydney forthwith,
as other talks had been arranged for me there. This
time, I stayed in Chua Phuoc Hue, but hadn’t
been there very long when I got a call from Melbourne
to say that Ba Chin ~ an old lady who had
always been very kind to me ~ had just died. I had
seen her just 3 weeks before, when she was very frail,
and told her then that if I were in Australia when
she went, I would return to try to 'help
her on her way', just as I did when my dad died 10
years earlier; I didn't expect this to be so soon,
however, but then, we can't tell what will happen,
or when, can we? I quickly made a booking on the internet,
and after lunch in someone's house, was driven to
Sydney airport. Again, we left late, and again missed
my flight, but this time, they got me on the next
flight an hour later without charging me for another
ticket.
The funeral ceremony was conducted by a Vietnamese
monk as per their tradition, and he also gave a talk.
I was pleased about that, because normally, all they
do is chant, when a funeral is the best opportunity
to sow some seeds; many people never go to temples,
so at a funeral, you have a captive audience who might
be receptive in the presence of death, and if you
waste this op-portunity, you probably won't get another
Anyway, the monk did not know her like I did, and
so I gave a eulogy, too.
I returned to Sydney once again, and this time stayed
with Baker Vo, as I’d done many times before.
And once more I had tooth-ache, so he took me to a
lady-dentist, but she was a real botcher, and drilled
a huge hole in the aching tooth before slapping a
fill-ing in, chatting with her assistant all the time
she was working, unaware that I understood some Vietnamese.
The tooth ached for days after and I had to go to
yet another dentist. She also overcharged me ~ or
rather, overcharged the medical-insurance of Mr. Vo
~ and I was not happy about this. I called her later
to complain, and she said maybe the tooth needs a
few more days to settle down. I also queried the bill,
and she explained that she had had to put it that
way as the bill was in my host's name and he hadn't
had any fillings, so she had to invent some items
such as x-ray and teeth-scaling. No wonder these people
become rich!
I must condense things a bit here because I moved
around so much towards the end of 2003. First, I went
again to Adelaide for another two weeks at Georgina’s
(my mistake); this time, I was to see that her marital
problems were of her own making; Rob was placid and
easy-going, while she had a ferocious temper, and
would sometimes explode at him for very minor things;
it was embarrassing to be present during such.
About that time, there was an incident in the Vietnamese
temple in Adelaide: Someone got into the locked shrine-hall
and smashed all the images, etc. The police came and
arrested him, and he was in jail awaiting trail. The
damage was estimated at about A$100,000. Rumors immediately
started to circulate in the Vietnamese community about
it, but the guy ~ Vietnamese him-self ~ was a drug-addict
and so probably acted impulsively on his own. Many
Vietnamese imagine communists behind every tree and
under every bed; there was probably no conspiracy
behind it. He said he was acting under orders from
God.
Like the destruction of the images in Afghanistan,
it was a great opportunity to explain the meaning
and purpose of the Buddha-image, both to Buddhists
and non-Buddhists alike. But did we use our opportunity?
Of course not; we merely bewailed the de-struction,
and learned nothing from it! The monk there went ahead
collecting a huge sum of money to buy replacements.
Really, I despair of organized Buddhism! And not just
this, but I’m afraid the future for the whole
world looks very bleak. Even with the huge bounty
on his head, Osama Bin Laden continues to evade his
pursuers, indicating how much support he has world-wide.
The way things are going, we should be prepared for
any-thing, including the worst, if we can imagine
what that might be; we've lived too long in a fool's
paradise and are ~ I think ~ about to be rudely awoken.
What a pity that GWB and his advisers seem to have
learned so little; the roots of the problems are completely
ignored as they stumble blithely on. We don't have
to like or agree with others' points-of-view, but
we should certainly be prepared to consider them;
that, after all, is what the ‘art’ of
war is all about, no? We must try to get into the
enemy's mind to see where he's coming from, and then
we can perhaps forestall him. The amount of money
that's been spent already could have created a paradise
in the Middle-East and solved the problems there.
It's all so unwise, and we will be exceedingly fortunate
if we can avoid another world-war, the battle-grounds
of which will be our centers of dense population.
We will soon need to depend upon what we have understood
of the Dharma, as this will be our only refuge in
facing what will probably come upon us.
Returning to Sydney once more, Toan and Loan picked
me up and took me to their home, but their little
boy seemed to have made it the purpose of his young
life to destroy my laptop, and I couldn’t let
him do that, so after a few days, I called Baker Vo,
and moved back to his place, to stay with them over
the Lunar New Year. Chua Phuoc Hue invited me to attend
their celebra-tions, but I declined, not liking crowds.
Another reason was that it had become very hot, as
it was mid-summer; temperatures reached 40 degrees.
I had several talks, one to a group of Malaysians
organized by Bok and Pearl, and another to an Indonesian
Buddhist group who discovered I was in town. From
the latter, I learned that Santithitto was still in
circulation, so I got his number and went to visit
him at a Laotian temple where he has a kuti. He had
aged since I’d last seen him, of course, as
he is 5 years older than me, and has dia-betes, too,
but was injecting insulin. Some years before, when
he was in Thailand, he fell and broke a leg, and had
to walk with a stick. In spite of these things, however,
he was still quite cheerful, just as he used to be.
Then, I got an email from a Vietnamese-Chinese school-teacher
in Brisbane who I'd known about 5 years, telling me
the sad news that his only child had become a junkie,
and asking for advice. Well, I knew he was grasping
at straws, as he couldn’t think of what to do.
And what could I say that would be of help to him,
ex-cept to offer him my deepest sympathy? I try to
turn people back to themselves to find the necessary
inner strength to deal with whatever life throws at
them. I didn't hold out false hope, but urged him
to "lean on the Dharma for support, as it is
our only true refuge; everything else is subject to
change, and parents, children, friends, possessions,
health, and even our own body will let us down sooner
or later, even if unintentionally.
"Your son will not listen to you at this time
and probably for a long time to come, and any attempt
to get him to talk will only make him withdraw from
you further. And yet, how can you behave normally
and go on living your life? It is very hard for you,
and now you need Dharma friends more than ever before.
Perhaps you know how Ananda once remarked to the Buddha
that spiri-tual friendship was so important that it
formed half of the holy life. The Buddha rebuked him
and said: ‘Say not so, Ananda; say not so. Spiritual
friendship is the whole of the holy life.’ Don't
be ashamed to accept consolation from others; you
are not a su-perman." I didn’t see him
when I went to Brisbane soon after-wards, nor hear
from him again, so don’t know how he went on.
Huy drove me out to see my mother for what would be
the last time, but really, my mother had gone long
before, leaving only a travesty of a human being;
what a cruel disease is Alzheimer’s! She wasn’t
even aware of me saying goodbye!
We also visited Sheila and Frank, who’d recently
been to China on vacation, and after their disastrous
trip in Spain, Portugal and Morocco the previous year,
I couldn’t believe how much they had enjoyed
it, with all those ‘foreigners’ there,
but I was certainly glad about it.
I returned to Melbourne to stay with Pham Thanh Hung
and his family in their convenience-store, but only
long enough to get a new passport and prepare to depart
to England again. He took me to a travel-agent-friend,
who gave me a good price for a one-way ticket, even
deducting the airport-tax for me.
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